Day 31

As parents we are learning that punishment doesn't work

It creates adults that accept being punished

War is punishment

This is why we accept wars

We learned to accept punishment as valid

Good news - it's not

It's never effective

It creates a change in the short term

That leads to a negative long term result

It's what we're used to 

So it's not easy to change

But once you've changed

It's easier

Once you experience the result

Once you see it's possible

Once you feel lighter and more joyful

You'll never go back

We create the abused

By thinking that it's ok to punish

It's ok to do harm sometimes

Not just physical but psychological

Manipulating, gaslighting, demeaning

Treating a child as less than and not deserving of respect

This is what they learn

This becomes their self-belief

They don't magically grow out of it

Just ask therapy

What we experience in our formative years

Forms us

That's why the nurture revolution is so important

It's literally how we change reality

From one of pain and suffering 

To one of joy and love

Compassion and empathy

All the things we should have received 

All the things we need to receive

We have to give to receive

It's not easy

But it's the only way

We have to give it to ourself first

Our children are our chance to rewire our brain

Rewire our programming

But you have to want it